February 10, 2024

Finding the Woman You Want: A Therapist’s Advice for Men Looking for a Permanent Relationship

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“FINDING THE WOMAN YOU WANT: A THERAPIST’S ADVICE FOR MEN LOOKING FOR A PERMANENT RELATIONSHIP” is an incisive and thought-provoking book for those seeking more than just a fleeting connection. Authored by the experienced therapist Anne Rettenberg, this work delves deep into the heart of dating and relationships, providing a roadmap for men to understand themselves and the women they seek to attract.

From the onset, the book challenges readers to consider “What Do You Want?”—a question that forms the crux of any pursuit of romance. It prompts men to introspect and define their long-term relationship goals, offering insights into monogamy, the desire for children, and the significance of shared life objectives.

Rettenberg’s work is not just theoretical; it provides practical guidance, answering an age-old question with the section “What Women Want.” Interestingly, the text dispels common misconceptions that wealth is a woman’s primary interest, focusing instead on the allure of self-confidence and the necessity of overcoming negative self-talk. The discussion on self-transformation is crucial, offering men actionable advice for highlighting their strengths while embracing imperfections.

The expertise of Anne Rettenberg shines through as she addresses how to meet and engage women. Differentiating from the pickup artist (PUA) mentality, the book encourages genuine connections. The “How and Where to Meet and Engage Women” section educates readers on seizing everyday opportunities and outlines strategies for making authentic conversation.

Dating is not without its challenges, which is why “Finding the Woman You Want” is replete with ‘Do’s and Don’t’s of Dating.’ This shares golden tips on the etiquette of asking women out and identifying potential deal-breakers, ensuring that men avoid common pitfalls that can end potentials before they truly begin.

Understanding the dynamics of early-stage relationships is vital. Rettenberg’s discussion helps men set the foundation for a healthy relationship, aligning with one’s own ideals and ensuring that both parties are on the same wavelength.

Though it’s a guide aimed primarily at new beginnings, its insight on divorce provides a reflective angle for men who have experienced previous marital failures, enhancing their wisdom for future endeavors.

For readers that crave real-world scenarios, “Some Unusual Relationships That Worked” offers hope and perspective, showcasing that love can flourish in many forms—even in the most unexpected circumstances.

The book also serves as a cautionary tale, offering tales of “Marriage Disasters” to help readers avoid similar fates. Real-life examples, such as untenable step-parenting situations and living under the shadow of a partner’s overbearing family, are used to highlight the importance of recognizing and acting on red flags.

“Finding the Woman You Want” is not your typical PUA script; there are no manipulative tricks or quick fixes here. Instead, Rettenberg lends her professional expertise to foster genuine, lasting connections based on mutual respect and shared life goals.

Skillsets covered in this book include meeting women and attracting women, making it an ideal tool for beginners in the world of serious dating. Provided in an eBook format, this piece is both convenient and accessible. Anne Rettenberg used her professional experience as a therapist to create this comprehensive guide, which was released on January 1, 2011. It’s designed to be a staple read for anyone ready to move from fleeting flings to a fulfilling and permanent relationship.

Table Of Contents/ List Of Topics Covered:

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What Do You Want?

  • Thinking About the Future
  • In Defense of Monogamy
  • What About Children?
  • Who Are You?
  • The Appreciation of Difference
  • The Importance of Shared Goals
  • If You’re Over 35 and Haven’t Been Married
  • Summary

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What Women Want

  • It Isn’t About Money
  • Self-Confidence Can Be Learned
  • Negative Messages Must Be Ignored
  • The Make-over: Accept What You Cannot Change
  • Sex: The Hedonist v. The Narcissist
  • Women Love Men Who Love Women
  • Summary

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How and Where to Meet and Engage Women

  • Everyday Scenarios
  • If Meeting By Chance Doesn’t Work
  • More Tips for Conversation
  • Summary

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‘Do’s and Don’t’s of Dating

  • Asking Women Out On Dates
  • Deal-breakers for a First Date
  • Dates Gone Wrong: Wishes Aren’t Reality, The Fumbled Save, Punishing the Limits, A Counseling Session
  • If A Date Goes Well
  • Summary

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The Early Stages of a Relationship

  • Getting Off to a Good Start

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If You’ve Been Divorced

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Some Unusual Relationships That Worked

  • The 34-year-old Virgin
  • The World Traveler

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Marriage Disasters: Don’t Marry the Wrong Woman

  • A Step-Parenting Disaster
  • Mommy Dearest, Again
  • Avoiding the Truth